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SUPERIOR COURT OF WASHINGTON

FOR THE COUNTY OF KING
Mathew W Ralidak 6/2/1986 | No. 25-2-11308-6 SEA
sheuanel Date of Birth |) ECLARATION OF MATHEW RALIDAK,
Vs RESPONDENT
Veronika E, Goodnight 2/15/1982
Respondent Date of Birth

 

I am over 18 years of age and am the Respondent.

I declare:

1. I filed my petition for protection on April 11" and the court signed a temporary order on
the same day. Respondent was informed by the Sheriff on April 12" that there was a
protection order in place. She was personally served with a copy on April 17"". Our three
children are included in the protection order.

2. Since I filed my petition, I obtained reports from all three therapists that see the children,
each child has their own therapist, CPS reports, and police reports. These have been filed
under Seal for the court’s review.

3. Iam gravely concerned about the physical safety of my children and the emotional and
psychological harm that the actions of the Respondent are causing. Recent events and the
notes from two therapists document emotional manipulation, physical harm, threat of

harm, verbal abuse, and allowing unwanted physical touch by “grandpa” perpetuated by

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the Respondent. See therapist reports filed under Seal. Veronika admitted she used
corporal punishment and told our daughter, “to get the f** out.” RGR report, p. 4. The
therapist provided parental strategies to help RGR with her behavior challenges and sense
of emotional chaos, but Veronika disagreed with the assessment and was unwilling to
implement the interventions. Id., p. 5 Both therapists reported the children were physically
and verbally abused by mom, feared her, that Veronika and Colin fight a lot and noted that
without improvements in stability and structure across both homes, RGR and AGR will

continue to escalate.

- The children are living in fear of having to return to their mom’s house and what

retaliation they will face. They have expressed on several occasions in the last few weeks
that they are afraid of what she [mom] will do and RGR fears she will get hit again. I fear
for the well-being of our children should they be required to return to visitation with their
mom without protection in place. The children do not feel safe there. RGR’s therapist
reported that Veronika’s fiancé’s children threatened to throw RGR off their balcony. All
the children were present when this was said, and were frightened, especially when the
adults brushed the comment off with laughter. Our daughter would like Moncia to help
with school events but is afraid of repercussions from her mom.
CPS was called twice in the last few months by two different third-party mandatory
reporters. See CPS reports filed under Seal. A child’s therapist called CPS after the child
disclosed their living situation (going to live in an RV without heat or water) and being
asked by her mom to kiss an older man, whom she had to call “grandpa” on the lips. Then
a teacher called CPS after our youngest daughter, RGR, disclosed that she was slapped,
pushed against the wall, and spanked by her mom the night before. See CPS report page 2

filed under Seal. Since the temporary order has been in place, events continue so that lam

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gravely concerned for the physical safety of my children and the emotional and

psychological harm that the actions of the Respondent are causing.

. My initial reason for bringing this request for a protection order was for fear of my safety

after an incident with Veronika and her fiancée at the children’s school. As stated in my
petition, while waiting for the children in the pick-up line at school, both Veronika and her
fiancé, Colin, approached my car. Veronika began yelling at me and making gestures
while Colin stood a few feet away. I was sandwiched between two other cars and had

nowhere to go. Veronika stood in my car window and continued to yell.

. Per our current parenting plan, Veronika is only to communicate with me via Talking

Parents. She violated this provision.

During the exchange with her and Colin, he walked around the back of my car, stood in
front of my driver’s side window and made a gun sign while staring directly at me. See
photos from the video footage attached as Ex. A & CPS report p. 5. Note that lam driving

the white SUV, Colin is wearing a brown sweatshirt, and Veronika is wearing white pants.

|. [know Colin has guns and I felt this gesture was intentionally done to provoke fear. The

children have all said that Colin is aggressive. He continued to stand outside of my car
even after Veronika went back into the school. There was no reason for him to be
anywhere near my vehicle after she left. I felt very intimidated and overwhelmed in the
moment. | felt threatened and nervous for my life. I do not know this man well enough to
trust his intentions and Veronika did nothing to try to deescalate the situation. She has
previously threatened me and I do not know if she would encourage her partner to harm
me. This person has been led to believe that I am an abuser, that I am a rapist, and that I
am a monster. I am none of those things, but the continued narrative after 7 years of

separation and over 5 years of living apart that I am, puts me in danger of retaliation. 1

believe Ms. Goodnight is hoping for my demise.

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10. The initial sheriff report, which I filed under Seal, stated, “it did not appear that [Colin]
Derieg or Goodnight make any threatening gestures” that was written before my follow up

call with the sheriff, and review and submission of the video footage from the school

documenting Colin giving me the gun sign.
Other Incidents

11. Third-Party Contact. The temporary DVPO states there is to be no contact, specifically

with the children by Veronika or through third-parties. Since receiving the Order, third-

party friends of Veronika’s have been attending the children’s events, for the first time. On

April 17", the couple who allegedly is giving Veronika a trailer for her and the children to
live in, the Solberg’s, showed up at our daughter’s, EGR, softball practice. They have
never come to any practice or game for any of the children in the past. Our daughter’s
friend’s dad, David, was also at her practice, which was highly unusual since his daughter
does not play softball. We found out afterwards that Veronika told him to be there.

12. After EGR’s practice was done, I took her to our son’s game. The older couple, the
Solberg’s, were also there. I do not know how they knew the date, location, or time of our
children’s events unless Veronika told them. The wife tried to engage in conversation
with our daughter during our son’s game. Contact via a third-party is in violation of the
temporary order.

13. The Solberg’s were at our daughter’s softball game in North Bend again on Monday, April
21st and again at our son’s baseball game in Carnation on Tuesday, April 22’, Each time

they try and engage with the other children not participating in the sport. The children are

 

confused by their attendance and mention every time they see them.
14, Surveillance. I recently found out that while we were out of town, around the first week in

March, Veronika drove to our house with all of the children, parked just outside of the

 

camera range, and drilled the children with questions like, where do you enter the house?

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She then told the children that my wife, Monica, “stole this house from me” and “Monica
stole this house, my money, my life” and she would do whatever she needed to do to get it
back. Monica and I bought the house together many years after my separation and
Veronika never lived there. All three children expressed concern that their mom would just
“show up” at the house on several occasions. RGR stated, “I do not want her to come
here.” Now, every time a delivery person comes to the house, the children panic. They
have been taught by Veronika that they cannot share what mom does because they will get
mom in trouble, and in turn, they will be in trouble.

15. Our youngest daughter, RGR, had a therapy appointment on March 27". The appointment
was during my residential time so Monica drove her to her appointment. When they
arrived, she noticed Veronika’s van parked outside of the building in plain sight. She was
hoping RGR did not notice, but she did. She began to panic and said, she did not trust the
therapist anymore because she thought she told her mom about the appointment. It took a
little bit to get her calmed enough that she went into her session. There was no reason for
Veronika to be there but to intimidate our daughter. Mat had to call the therapist to make
sure Veronika was not in there. The therapist confirmed she was not in the building, and
told Monica to pull up in front of the building, and she would meet them outside. See

therapist notes filed under Seal. RGR asked Monica to stay with her during that session.

 

16. Both girls have made concerning statements about Veronika’s fiancé. One said she is
afraid of him because he gets drunk and angry a lot while the other said he hit her.
17. Petitioner’s Pattern of Behavior. The respondent will use her time to claim that she is in

fact the victim and will attempt to villainize me. This is a tactic that she has used

 

repeatedly to try and isolate me from the community, destroy my employment

opportunities, and maintain control over my life. Her narrative that she had to flee my

 

 

 

 

home in fear was found to be without basis during our CIR trial, as is every claim she has

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made against me. She will use character witnesses to collaborate her narrative of my
alleged abuse towards her, all of which is hearsay and based on Veronika’s unfounded
allegations and continued slander. Our interactions show that the harassment is initiated by
her. I am continually on the receiving end of rageful, hostile messages and accusations all
the while she is dragging my name through the mud and lying about me on social media
and to people in the community. The gravity of the obsession to do me harm is detrimental
to my mental health and the mental health of my children and wife. Veronika has shown
up at my church under the guise of watching our children rehearse a play but used her time
to try and slander me to members of my community. She has messaged members of my
church friends, including the pastor, telling them not to trust myself or my wife. She has
reached out to parents whose children have had play dates and birthday parties at my home
to tell them I am a monster. She created a false narrative that I cheated on my wife to
destroy my relationship with her. She alleged that I cheated during my relationship with
her to paint me as a serial cheater. I am not. She has reached out to my brother-in-law and
father-in-law to slander me. She has attempted to isolate me and influence the community
against me. This has been going on since 2020 when Veronika moved out of my home and
increased in escalation once she was aware of my new relationship. There is no such
abusive pattern that can be found from me towards her.
18. She attempted to file a protection order against me in 2020 but was denied as there was no
supporting evidence.
19. The witness statements should not be considered as they come from curated moments and

many of these people have spent little to no time with the children,

20. She is always the aggressor.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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21. Pattern of psychological abuse. The kids are used as pawns in her abuse against me and
there is no care to how it affects their mental health. They are all showing severe mental

health trauma.

I declare under penalty of perjury under the laws of the state of Washington that the facts I have provided
on this form (and any attachments) are true. [X] I have attached (number): 10 pages.

 

 

Signed at (city and state): Duvall, WA Date: 4/24/25
/s| Mathew Ralidak Mathew Ralidak
Bign here Print name

 

Warning! Documents filed with the court are available for anyone to see unless they are sealed. Financial, medical, and
confidential reports, as described in General Rule 22, must be sealed so they can only be seen by the court, the other party, and
the lawyers in your case. Seal those documents by filing them separately, using a Sealed cover sheet (form FL All Family 011,
012, or 013). You may ask for an order to seal other documents.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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